Today I received a link to a status update on FB. It had been sent by a dear friend. Clicking on it, it led me to an hour old update from a young man - her cousin - in post-op. He just had his top surgery today.
Tears filled my eyes as I read the update and looked at the still groggy smile in the selfie he posted.
This type of surgery is in our future as we transition with Toby. It is an important step, not just in terms of further aligning the outside with the inside, but in terms of the psychology. The boost cannot be understated.
I reached out via a Friend Request and within minutes he had accepted. As it turns out, he already knew who I was from his cousin - you see, he has been reading the blog and following our journey with Toby. And he thanked me for making him "feel better about the world and my place in it on dark days."
More tears. THIS, this is all I ever hoped to do when we decided to come forward publicly. To touch someone else, to make them feel less alone.
I sit here both completely humbled and overwhelmed.
On this important day - National Coming Out Day - let this serve as a reminder to all advocates - YOU MATTER. YOU MATTER SO MUCH. So step out, too. Your visible support and encouragement are powerful.
And you never know who is watching and feeling a little better, stronger, safer for it.